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I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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Your bottled water habit is sucking California dry

If you’re reading this, chances are very high that your home has at least one — and maybe more! — magic appliance that produces clean water suitable for drinking. That’s one reason to avoid paying for bottled water.
Another reason? There’s a good chance the water you’re buying at the supermarket was bottled in California, a state currently enduring a severe drought.
Turn on the tap instead | Follow micdotcom
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EVERYONE PLEASE AT LEAST TAKE A QUICK SECOND TO LOOK AT THIS
BECAUSE IT IS EFFECTING THE EXACT AREA I LIVE IN

Lots of people believe bottled water is safer and cleaner than tap water, when in reality there’s no evidence proving such a thing.
http://kids.nationalgeographic.com/kids/stories/spacescience/water-bottle-pollution/
http://edition.cnn.com/2013/11/19/health/upwave-bottled-water/
http://abcnews.go.com/Business/study-bottled-water-safer-tap-water/story?id=87558
Penn & Teller’s Bullshit!: Bottled Water segment, gives a very good and thorough summary of the bottled water culture https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHx6BX3HZJc

I’ve always found it somewhat comical that my parents buy bottled water, because the water they buy… comes from the municipal water supply of the neighboring town. Which I’m fairly sure has the same source as ours does (ultimately, the Detroit River—so not from the drought areas on the map).
They literally buy what they already get coming to the tap, just in one-time-use plastic bottles instead of the multitude of filtered reusable plastic and plain metal bottles we have. It’s absurd.

this is interesting because in california we’re being encouraged to buy bottled water in order to avoid wasting water during the drought.

One time I brought this up in my natural sciences class at college and the teacher just stared at me for half a minute straight. Does no one think about this? Why can’t you guys just grab some from, I don’t know, the Appalachian mountains? (not sure if you have springs up there, but for hell’s sake, at least you’re not a bloody desert)
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winawinadajcie:

kavaeric:

je-suis-cocopuff:

micdotcom:

Your bottled water habit is sucking California dry

If you’re reading this, chances are very high that your home has at least one — and maybe more! — magic appliance that produces clean water suitable for drinking. That’s one reason to avoid paying for bottled water.
Another reason? There’s a good chance the water you’re buying at the supermarket was bottled in California, a state currently enduring a severe drought.
Turn on the tap instead | Follow micdotcom
(Images via MotherJones)


EVERYONE PLEASE AT LEAST TAKE A QUICK SECOND TO LOOK AT THIS
BECAUSE IT IS EFFECTING THE EXACT AREA I LIVE IN

Lots of people believe bottled water is safer and cleaner than tap water, when in reality there’s no evidence proving such a thing.
http://kids.nationalgeographic.com/kids/stories/spacescience/water-bottle-pollution/
http://edition.cnn.com/2013/11/19/health/upwave-bottled-water/
http://abcnews.go.com/Business/study-bottled-water-safer-tap-water/story?id=87558
Penn & Teller’s Bullshit!: Bottled Water segment, gives a very good and thorough summary of the bottled water culture https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHx6BX3HZJc

I’ve always found it somewhat comical that my parents buy bottled water, because the water they buy… comes from the municipal water supply of the neighboring town. Which I’m fairly sure has the same source as ours does (ultimately, the Detroit River—so not from the drought areas on the map).
They literally buy what they already get coming to the tap, just in one-time-use plastic bottles instead of the multitude of filtered reusable plastic and plain metal bottles we have. It’s absurd.

this is interesting because in california we’re being encouraged to buy bottled water in order to avoid wasting water during the drought.

One time I brought this up in my natural sciences class at college and the teacher just stared at me for half a minute straight. Does no one think about this? Why can’t you guys just grab some from, I don’t know, the Appalachian mountains? (not sure if you have springs up there, but for hell’s sake, at least you’re not a bloody desert)

svidrigailovskaya:

winawinadajcie:

kavaeric:

je-suis-cocopuff:

micdotcom:

Your bottled water habit is sucking California dry

If you’re reading this, chances are very high that your home has at least one — and maybe more! — magic appliance that produces clean water suitable for drinking. That’s one reason to avoid paying for bottled water.

Another reason? There’s a good chance the water you’re buying at the supermarket was bottled in California, a state currently enduring a severe drought.

Turn on the tap instead Follow micdotcom

(Images via MotherJones)

EVERYONE PLEASE AT LEAST TAKE A QUICK SECOND TO LOOK AT THIS

BECAUSE IT IS EFFECTING THE EXACT AREA I LIVE IN

Lots of people believe bottled water is safer and cleaner than tap water, when in reality there’s no evidence proving such a thing.

http://kids.nationalgeographic.com/kids/stories/spacescience/water-bottle-pollution/

http://edition.cnn.com/2013/11/19/health/upwave-bottled-water/

http://abcnews.go.com/Business/study-bottled-water-safer-tap-water/story?id=87558

Penn & Teller’s Bullshit!: Bottled Water segment, gives a very good and thorough summary of the bottled water culture https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHx6BX3HZJc

I’ve always found it somewhat comical that my parents buy bottled water, because the water they buy… comes from the municipal water supply of the neighboring town. Which I’m fairly sure has the same source as ours does (ultimately, the Detroit River—so not from the drought areas on the map).

They literally buy what they already get coming to the tap, just in one-time-use plastic bottles instead of the multitude of filtered reusable plastic and plain metal bottles we have. It’s absurd.

this is interesting because in california we’re being encouraged to buy bottled water in order to avoid wasting water during the drought.

One time I brought this up in my natural sciences class at college and the teacher just stared at me for half a minute straight. Does no one think about this? Why can’t you guys just grab some from, I don’t know, the Appalachian mountains? (not sure if you have springs up there, but for hell’s sake, at least you’re not a bloody desert)

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